I get a lot of questions about how to write a good online dating profile. Usually it's because someone isn't getting many responses to their emails, or she/he just isn't generating good matches. After all, the goal is to attract the right men or women to you. I have two suggestions that could turn things around, so don't roll your eyes and say that online dating sucks. Cuz it doesn't. 1. Don't be generic. Self-reflection required. I need to meet you. The fix is easy.

Typically people need a couple of tweaks to their descriptions, or help in making their writing less generic. Many of us are tempted to write more benign stuff (i.e. "I like long walks on the beach.." or "I like someone who makes me laugh..") Gag. Seriously, who doesn't like to laugh or walk on the beach? But it requires you to do a little self-reflection, which makes some people squirm. Being generic is so easy! Plus, people won't think you're strange!

But writing a good description takes time and effort, and most people don't have either. If you want results, you have to make your profile description a priority. I'm serious. So, the self-reflection part. The idea of describing yourself and why you'd make a great date/partner/hook-up makes some people uncomfortable and others arrogant a-holes. If you feel compelled to list all of your accomplishments or great qualities, shorten the list. Pick your favorites.

Then think about your faults. I'm serious. Nobody wants to date someone who is perfect, or thinks they are perfect. They want to date someone who is genuine. People want to date someone who's genuine. Who can see you for who you are, faults and all. This means that you can also include a couple of lines about how you will try to cook but will probably just burn toast, or how you can't carry a tune. A little self-depricating humor can do well with online dating.